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This September, Heather and I will be married for 20 years. It has been an amazing journey, with twists and turns that we could have never foreseen. 

It sounds cliche to say that time travels in a blink of an eye. One day we were kids getting married, with no clue what we were doing. The next day we have six kids and are launching into full-time marriage and family ministry. It went by soooo fast. Too fast actually. 

I found this quote by Kurt Vonnegut that jumped out at me because I how important it is for couples. “Enjoy the little things in life because one day you`ll look back and realize they were the big things.”

Sometimes we spend all our time and energy on the “home runs” in marriage. The perfectly romantic nights, the intimate moments that seem almost magical, the dream vacations on the beach. We LOVE these spectacular events that create memories that last a lifetime. 

If we are not careful, we will make these homerun moments our life’s pursuit, and miss the beauty of living each day with our spouse. As we get married, the simple things can become routine and many times it was the simple things that ignited the flame of love in your relationship. 

I remember when we first started dating how amazing it was to hold Heather’s hand. It was beautifully simple as our infatuation grew to love. I had the privilege of being able to hold her hand and was just thrilled to be dating her. 

Over time, we sometimes lose the joy of the simple things. Why focus on holding hands when there are more intimate things to pursue? Unfortunately, if we have that mindset, we begin to lose what intimacy really is. 

If we rediscover the joy of the little things with our spouse, it creates even better big things. Cherishing each moment I have with Heather means I am continually appreciating the opportunity to be married to her. When this happens, love and romance flow freely in our marriage.