For some couples, taking the leap from abstinence to a married sex life can be an awkward stumble into marriage. For those of us raised in church, our teenage years may have been focused on hearing the evils of pre-marital sex. While the church's hearts were in the right place, a lot of married couples enter into marriage with a taboo mindset about sex. For them, it can be hard to switch gears from thinking sex is unmentionable sin to embracing what God desires to be a thriving aspect of your marriage.
Due to the intimate nature of sex, opening up about this part of our marriage can be a challenge. Even if we did not have to reprogram our brains when we got married, talking about sex with our spouse just brings an uncomfortable awkwardness to it. If we want this part of our married lives to be all that God intended it to be, we have to face the awkwardness and overcome it. Sex was designed to bring intimacy into a marriage. To become intimate with each other, we have to be willing to be vulnerable and honest with our spouse - especially about sex.
The reality is, the subjects that we refuse to talk about in our marriage tend to create the deepest wounds. A marriage with an unfulfilled sex life will have at least one of the spouses living in continual frustration or resentment. So many times this can be avoided by having a conversation about sex. It may require a deep level of trust in our spouse to handle this area with care, but we have to take this leap of faith.