Establish Boundaries In Your Marriage

Early in our marriage, we had a friendship with another couple that began to turn towards being awkward and inappropriate. The husband of the other couple started making comments to my wife that were inappropriate or toeing the line between OK and not OK. When this happened, she immediately told me about it, and we began taking steps to distance ourselves from the individual. 

What we decided in our relationships was that there were clear lines that we would not allow to be crossed. We created boundaries with people of the opposite sex and other areas like finances, work/life balances, family, and even how we talk about each other. In doing this, we created a clear road map for what we defined as success in our marriage.

Couples may not always be on the same page. Many times a husband and wife will look at the same situation but see things differently. This is partly due to the natural differences between a man and a woman. Other factors like family culture, church background, and where they were raised can directly influence how a couple sees boundaries in a relationship. 

Due to differences that we each bring into our relationship, we HAVE to communicate clearly with our spouse on areas where boundaries need to be established. Something that may not be a big deal to our spouse may be a HUGE deal to us. If we do not communicate about these things, we set the stage for assumptions, misunderstandings, and conflict in our marriage.